have this theory that people become empaths as a way to stay safe
in their world. If you know what those around you are feeling,
then you know how to adjust what you say and do to make them comfortable
so that they are safer people to be around, both emotionally and
physically. An empath can be a real chameleon, shifting tone of
voice, conversation styles, body posture, and choice of tactics
and actions to help the people that are around them to feel more
at ease. The problem with this is that they often lose track of
what is actually authentic and true for themselves. They tend
to care take their environment as a way to care take themselves.
This is a pretty roundabout way of doing self-care. Doing or saying
something that will make someone else angry or sad is uncomfortable
for an empath, so that they often avoid confrontation in order
to avoid feeling other people's uncomfortable emotions. It is
easy for them to lose track of the fact that they themselves are
know first hand, because I am an empath. It has been both a gift
and has exacted many painful lessons from me. I could never be
the healer I am today without having been an empath. When I lay
my hands on a person, I can tell almost right away what emotions
are lodged in that person's body, what issues they are dealing
with, and sometimes, even what they are thinking. On the other
side of the coin, there have been times in my life where I was
not true to myself because of the needs and the emotions of others,
often greatly to my detriment.
what are we to do about this quandary?
are several things that I have found essential practices in my
path to take advantage of the psychic gifts, and lessen the problems
of being an empath.
Your Shield Body
your physical body, there is a layer of your aura that is devoted
to your interface with your environment. Its shape and condition
indicate your relationship to your world. People who are empaths
often have a "thin skin" in relation to their shield
body. When it has holes in it, we are more easily influenced by
our environment. Visualize a shield of energy around your physical
body. See is as radiant and complete. You may see it as a particular
color. Some people like to see it as white or gold. Decide what
color would work well for you, and see it that way. Imagine the
shield body as flowing and moving, not static; we are developing
a shield here – not armor. It is good for it to be flexible,
so you can let in what serves you, and keep out what doesn't.
thing that I have found exceptionally helpful, it to carry around
a boji stone. This remarkable stone has been proven by Kirlian
photography to seal the auric field if kept on the person for
3 days or more.
you have the shield body in place, imagine that there is a spark
in the center of your being that is your pure essence. Focus your
attention on the spark, being all your senses to bear. Also be
aware of your sensations, emotions and thoughts. First try this
when you are alone, and then, after a time, practice it around
others. See if you can switch your awareness from your environment
to your self, and back again. Notice the difference between the
Take On Responsibilities That Aren't Yours
person can get so used to care taking that they can feel as though
they are supposed to do it. You are not. It is good to be as compassionate
as possible without going beyond the limits of what you need to
do to maintain your health and sanity. You are responsible up
to that line, and not beyond it. If you are an empath, your idea
of where the line is might be a bit fuzzy. Once you get to know
where the line is, try to stick to it. It will make all your relationships
clearer and cleaner.
Used To Being The Bad Guy
are often outwardly kind and caring. They usually get the benefit
of everyone thinking that they are almost saintly sometimes. It
is easy to get attached to being the "nice guy." It
is not easy dealing with people's negative emotions, but care
taking others does not ultimately serve them or you. It does not
help them to protect them from their feelings. It keeps them from
growing up; besides, it’s not real. Must better to live
in reality than a padded reality. Yes, they may get angry or sad
at you or with you if you don't do what they want you to do, but
it is important to remember that their feelings are not your feelings,
and your well-being is not dependent on their well being.
Your Throat Chakra
an empath will know what they need to say or do to make good boundaries,
but have a hard time following through in expressing it. The throat
chakra is the center for the expression of personal truth. Through
the opening of the throat chakra, we open ourselves to expressing
our true needs and feelings, as well as expressing the creative
force as it moves through us. Some good exercises for opening
the throat chakra are singing and chanting, sharing your feelings
and thoughts with friends, and meditating on the throat chakra.
Some healing stones that help with the throat chakra are chrysacolla,
turquoise, lapis lazuli, amazonite, and blue lace agate. You can
meditate with them, put them in a medicine bag, or wear jewelry
Your Root Chakra
root chakra helps us to deal with being fully in the world. When
the root chakra is open, we are fully grounded and present with
whatever is coming our way. When it is not open, we can be disassociative,
fearful, and have difficulty staying present with what is going
on. Opening and healing the root chakra helps us to release the
fears that keep us from our highest manifestation within form.
Some exercises that help to open the root chakra are:
you are sending roots down into the earth from your base. Imagine
you can breathe in and out of you root. On the inhale, breath
in energy from he earth. On the exhale, release any thing that
is within you that does not serve you.
healing stones that might be helpful are obsidian, boji stones,
hematite, and red jasper.
And Clearing Regularly
you are having difficulty with your empathic abilities or not,
it is a good idea to smudge yourself regularly to release other
people's energy and influence from your energy body. Other good
clearing methods are showering, bathing and spending time in solitude.
Can you feel what others around you are feeling? Are you sensitive
to your surroundings? When you lay your hands on someone, do your
hands know right where to go to help that person? Perhaps you
are an empath.
To Become More Empathetic
you would like to become more empathetic it might be helpful for
you to try these things:
order to begin to develop empathic ability, it is essential to
care how someone feels. When we have compassion, we attune to
the needs and feelings of the person we want to help. When we
resist the energies, need and feelings of another, it is pretty
hard to really open your self to them enough to know what is going
Yourself In Someone Else's Shoes
for the best ways to develop compassion is to put your self in
their shoes. What would it feel like to be them – to have
had their experiences, to live their lifestyle, etc? There is
a practice of entrainment that can help you come into a simpatico
you are working directly with a person, breathe with them –
at the same rate. Imagine you can feel what they feel. It works
the best if you can be in some form of physical contact with them,
like holding their hand, or placing your hand on their heart chakra.
Imagine your awareness sinks into their body. Notice what you
see in your mind's eye, feel physically, and hear. Bring all of
your senses to bear.
Your Heart Chakra
our heart chakra is truly open, we have the experience of the
woven-ness of reality. We are not as separate as we seem. When
another person is in pain, we have the knowledge of their need,
and may respond to it appropriately. Breathe in and out of your
heart chakra. Imagine it opening like a lovely flower. Feel all
the love that has ever been given to you, and feel and see all
those who have ever loved. Be sure to include animals, who are
great teachers of unconditional love. Allow your heart to grow
several sizes. Some gemstones that are helpful for opening the
heart chakra are rose quartz, malachite, emerald and ruby.
Your Third Eye Chakra
the third eye is open, we can experience strong clairvoyance.
Through it, we can perceive more clearly what is going on in the
minds and hearts of those around us. When the third eye is closed,
we tend to be more mental in our approach, and spend way too much
time trying to figure things out instead of just "knowing."
To open the third eye, sit quietly focusing on the third eye.
While you attention is there, chant the mantra, "aum."
envision light filling your skull, and emanating out of your third
eye. After a time, if you like, you may ask a question, and allow
a vision that represents the answer to appear in your mind. When
you are finished meditating on the third eye, be sure to spend
a little time focusing on your root chakra to help ground your
this contributor: Sylvia Brallier, author and Master Healer, is
the Director of The Tantric Shamanism Institute.